Life Lessons

Creating a Life of Freedom - Starting from Where I Am

As I write today, and on most days, I am taking action before I convince myself to do otherwise.   

And so in having the courage to take the first step, I am starting from where I am and just doing the next right thing – living one moment at a time, appreciating each experience like a hummingbird appreciates the abundance of nectar available from a freshly-filled feeder.

The first time I encountered this concept (of “just doing the next right thing”), I was unaware of its origin; I did not know that this notion had stood tall as a staple in recovery and support groups for many years. But what I did recognize was its relevance and ability to be applied to all areas of my life.

When I find myself partially paralyzed or even stagnant, I focus on just taking that next step, breathing in that next breath, and doing the next right thing. By taking the time to reconnect with myself and letting my soul take the lead, I am able to make the best decision for that moment. It’s incredible how those seemingly insignificant moments of doing the next right thing join together to create my day.

Living one day at a time allows me to focus on making the best out of the moments that are right in front of me. Those days add up over time; before I know it, I am building a life.  


A Few Things My Twenties Have Taught Me

1) Be yourself. Stop trying to impress everyone else.

2) Take the time to pre-heat the damn oven. Trust me – it makes a difference.

3) Always check to see if there is toilet paper in a public washroom stall before (not after) going pee.

4) Take care of yourself – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It takes time and effort, but it is worth it.

5) Acquiring information doesn’t necessarily equate to intelligence; however, being able to critically think about that information does.

6) Don’t take shit from anyone, and stand your ground. Do this without being a self-centered asshole. Be willing to accept when you have made a mistake, learn from it, and do better next time.

7) Sometimes you have to listen more than you speak.

8) Animals enrich your life more than you enrich theirs. They bring unconditional love to the table. Even if your cat is a jerk, she’s your jerk. Appreciate your pets. Love your pets. Treat them well.

9) Value the people in your life who treat you right, and forget about the rest. Those who are loyal, loving, and compassionate are irreplaceable. Show them and tell them how much they mean to you.  

10) Love fiercely. Love your family – blood or not. Love your spouse. Love yourself.